Motherhood

Eight Years

 

57C49993-2D63-490D-9BB0-4D932103E39B.pngToday marks a special anniversary in our family. Eight years ago today, just six weeks after we received two sweet little boys into our home, they had their first play date with their baby sister. They had never spent the day together, as they had been in different foster homes in different cities. In the past, the two boys had occasion to spend time together and knew each other well enough to know they were brothers. But this baby sister was a whole new idea to them. By this time they were quite comfortable in our house, and they were very excited to meet this little girl.

I remember that day so well. We loaded the two younger ones into the stroller and walked several blocks to the park where we played on the equipment and the swings. I took turns pushing the two-year-old and the one-year-old. The boys were rambunctious as always, but this sweet little girl was as quiet as could be. I captured this picture on the couch during a lulll in their playtime.

It was only a matter of weeks until this little angel was also residing in our home. This quiet little baby has become one of the most outgoing little girls I have ever seen. She is loved by many. And those boys…they continue to grow and transform, and never cease to amaze me.

What a beautiful thing adoption is. What an awesome opportunity to share the love of Jesus. What an incredible way to live out our lives. I am forever grateful…to God for bringing them to us, and to them for loving us with all their hearts. Eight years have passed but we look forward to a lifetime of fun and laughter, cuddles and hugs, tickles and giggles, and growing up together.
#adoptionrocks #mykids #love #family

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We Are Better Together!

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Hi Mom-Sense followers!  I pray that you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving with much to be thankful for.  My family enjoyed a day of serving the community, followed by a family celebration on Friday.  We topped it off with a camping trip to the desert which seems to be becoming a tradition as some of my children get into adulthood.

As I sit here around the fire with my babies gathered around me, my heart is thankful for family.  I am so grateful for the joy and privilege of being their mama!  There are so many joys to motherhood, and there are also times of fear, pain, and uncertainty.  That’s why I feel that Mom-Sense is so important.  We can all use a little encouragement at times, right?  We all have funny moments, scary moments, tense moments, joy-filled moments, and moments of uncertainty that we can share, right?

My hope has been to create a place where we can share, encourage, acknowledge, and pray for one another.  That is done on the blog and also in our Facebook group. If you haven’t joined our Facebook group or if you haven’t subscribed to my blog, I invite you to do so today.  The Facebook group is Mom-Sense and the blog is https://momsense.blog/.  I welcome your questions, your stories, your moments of triumph, and your requests for prayer.  Let’s join forces as mamas and keep each other encouraged and uplifted on what is the greatest of all journeys!

Many blessings to you all!

Betty Predmore

 

Motherhood

Service Starts at Home

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Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity (Titus 2:7)

I don’t know about you, but I sometimes find myself acting like a complete jerk in front of my children. I lose my patience, get frustrated, or just get stressed out and they are the ones who pay the price. Isn’t it amazing how we can give so much to others, but when we get home we have nothing left to give some days?

The Lord has really been speaking to me in this area. Who is my most important ministry? Who are the special ones He chose specifically for me? Who does He call me to be a mama to? THOSE are the ones who deserve my best. THOSE are the ones who need to see me walking with dignity and integrity, demonstrating the gospel with my words and actions.

Our children need to see us loving Jesus. They need to see us living that out in our homes and in our workplaces, with our friends and families. Our little ones (and even our big ones) need to see us extend a hand to those in need, share a smile and a kind word with someone who needs encouragement, shake a hand or give a hug to someone who needs reassurance. They need to see the love of Jesus flowing from us. That love will radiate from us to our children, covering them with comfort, reassurance, and peace.

They also need to see us doing good works. Do you involve your children in outreach and service? Are you cultivating a servant’s heart within them? With seven kids, I can honestly say that some of them have more of a servant’s heart than others. But they have ALL had service demonstrated in their lives. They have all watched me serve countless times, and I have stressed the importance of being the hands and feet of Jesus to them. My 10- year-old blesses my heart with his huge heart to serve others. He will find the scruffiest homeless person and shake their hand. He will serve in a food assembly line with great joy. He is…to put it simply…a servant of Christ. My heart just can’t wait to see how he uses this in his adult life. I know God has amazing plans for this sweet little boy.

Oh, how thankful I am for my family. How grateful I am to be able to help lead them to Jesus. What a beautiful treasure it is to mold and shape their little hearts to be like Christ.

Thank you Lord for trusting me to do this job. Thank you for guiding me and showing me that my family is my first and most important ministry. Help me, Lord, to make a true and genuine effort to give my best to my most precious. And my Lord, help me to not give in when Satan calls me to act in frustration and impatience, but to seek your calmness and peace when dealing with the ones I love so dearly. Amen.

Motherhood

A Gift and a Challenge

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And again, “I will put my trust in him.” And again, “Behold, I and the children God has given me.” (Hebrews 2:13)

As I ponder what my mama heart is thankful for today, I am thankful for the children He chose to give me. Think about it for a moment…God picked YOU specifically for the children you have. He knew YOU would be the one He could entrust to guide them, teach them, and love them. He knew YOU would lead them towards His light and His love.

Most of you reading this today are probably grateful for the children you gave birth to. You can probably still remember the moment each of them was born. I can remember those special details from the births of all four of my children. But I also very specifically can recall the moment I first laid eyes on the three that God brought me through adoption. The three children that God gave me as an extra special gift. He chose ME to be their mother. What a blessing that is!

I do not pretend to be close to knowing all there is to know about raising children. I do not try to trick anyone into believing that I have it “all going on” in the mothering department. But what I DO know is that I trust my God. I believe in Him. I want to be obedient to Him. I am very grateful for the gifts I have been given. I have been given so much. I have had the opportunity to learn many life lessons. I think one of the most important things I have learned is that family is not always defined by shared bloodlines. In our home, it is more defined by a deep sense of love and respect, tons of laughter, many tears, and a fierce sense of protection. Family is those who will hold you when you are scared, cry with you when your heart is broken, and laugh at the jokes that aren’t funny. Family is unending patience and much forgiveness. It is praying together and staying together. In this house, family is a blended bunch of craziness that comes together to create something awesome…something only God could assemble together and make it work.

Yes, I was chosen to be mama to this rowdy brood. It is my greatest gift and often my biggest challenge. My family may not, and probably doesn’t, look like yours. But that’s okay. God chose YOU to be mama to the special ones He knew would make your life complete. Take a moment…ponder the gift of motherhood…let gratitude and thankfulness sink into your soul. Then close your eyes and whisper a soft thank you to your Father in heaven, who knows you so well, and knows just who you need to make up your family.

Motherhood

Pass It Down

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Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children. (Proverbs 17:6)

I have discovered one of the most awesome things about having children…they grow up and give you grandchildren! I am finding my role as Grammie to be one of the sweetest, most precious things I have ever experienced.

You might still have youngsters and feel like this stage of your life is still a long way off. Let me assure you, the time goes so fast when we are raising our kids, and before you know it, they are grown and on their own. You are left standing there, befuddled and wondering where the time went. Did I teach them enough? Did I love them enough? Did I help them understand grace and compassion? Did I prepare them for this world? Did I guide them as close to the cross as I possibly could?

We do our best, then they are grown. And then we get the opportunity to share all our love, wisdom, and guidance with those darling little creatures called grandchildren. As our children move into adulthood, we have the opportunity to consider this… are my children proud of me? Not because of any accolades or wealth, not because of the ladder of success I might have climbed, but because of the human being I am. Do they take pride in my beliefs, my attitude, my ability to show grace and compassion, my unconditional love? Are they proud of the way I raised them and the home they came from? Most importantly, are they proud of how I represent my Savior?

Life is a multitude of opportunities…opportunities to make a difference in our homes with those who are most precious to us, opportunities to watch the generations of our family unfold and continue the traditions of love and honor that that our families can take pride in, and opportunities to continue to lead our family towards the light of Jesus. The greatest joy is to be able to take our love of the Lord and pass it down through the generations.

Father ~ thank you for the opportunity to experience the joy of being a mama, and thank you for the awesome privilege of being a grandmother. Help me to always make my children proud, and help me to always point them towards your loving arms, in Jesus’ name ~ Amen.

 

Motherhood

Second Chances

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Start children off on the way they should go, and even when. They are old they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

One of the things we can be so very thankful for as mothers is that we get the privilege and opportunity to teach and train our children in the ways of the Lord. What a difference we can make in our families and communities! What a difference we can make for the Kingdom! God chooses each of us specifically for the children He brings into our lives.

For I have chosen him, that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice, so that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has promised. (Genesis 18:19)

God promised Abraham descendants more numerous than the stars. We are those descendants. And as we parent our children, we continue to pass down the precepts of our Father. What an absolute honor to be chosen for a purpose such as this. How grateful we should be that God sees us as worthy of this calling.

God chose me to not only guide and teach my four biological children, but also three through adoption. They are extra special gifts to me because they are “second chance” kids. What do I mean when I say “second chance”? Obviously, they are getting a second chance with parents who can love and provide for them, who can nurture them, who can teach them about Jesus and his great love and sacrifice. But, I too, get a second chance. Like all mamas, I have made a lot of mistakes in my parenting. I have learned many lessons the hard way. But God is so good! He gives me a second chance to parent children, to utilize what I have learned along the way, and to make a lasting difference in their lives. Oh, what a blessing that is to this mama’s heart!

Guiding our children towards Jesus isn’t always an easy task. This world is a little crazy sometimes, and it is often difficult to find the ribbons of love flowing through the fabric of hatred. But if we look hard enough, we will find it. Then we can point our children towards the light of Jesus Christ. We can offer them the hope and promise that walking with him brings. We can share salvation with them and direct their eternity.

If you feel you have been failing in this area, don’t despair. God is a merciful God and He will give you more opportunities to be that lamp post for your children. He is a God of second chances…and for that I am very grateful.

Motherhood

A Handful of Quietness

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I read somewhere today…”taking care of yourself is the first step in taking care of your children.” Boy, does that make sense! How often do we neglect our own needs for the sake of our families? I don’t know about you, but I am always quick to put my own well-being on the back burner for the sake of my kiddos. That’s what a good mom does, right?

We all….yes, even us mamas, need to find time to rest, renew , and refresh our bodies and our souls. Ecclesiastes 4:6 tells us, Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and a striving after wind. That tells me that even a little bit of rest is good. All the toil that goes into our days, all the striving to be a good mama, can zap us, but just a hand full of sitting in His presence can renew our souls.

I don’t know about you, but when I get tired and weary, I get discouraged. The devil wants nothing more than to rob me of the joys of motherhood through discouragement and doubt. Psalm37:4 reminds me, Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. When I take time to rest in Him, to take joy in His presence, He fulfills the desires of my heart. And Mamas, isn’t our greatest desire to be a good mother, a good example of Christ, to our children?

Some days are too long. Other days are too short. Whatever day you are in today, I pray that you take a moment for yourself. Grab that hand full of quietness that you need and deserve. Let the Lord restore your soul and refresh your mind. Allow Him to work in you so that you can be the mama that your heart desires to be. He is here to walk this walk with us so we never have to feel alone, to guide us when we are lost and strengthen us when we feel weak. Oh, what a wonderful Savior we have! And because of Him and his love for us, what wonderful mothers we can be!